Hello Friends. I went to a site called www.daytrippingmom.com and found lots of awesome things to do for Spring break. We went to the La Brea Tar Pits, and today we went to the Muth Interpretive center in Newport Back Bay. It was incredibly fun, and had we not been seriously hungry, we would have stayed longer. It is a gem of a place.
Family news. Dave is still not quite working. Kati is still not quite working. However, things are going well.
I just found out that I got the Externship I have been gunning for at Talbert Medical, my very own clinic in Anaheim. I start sometime next week. There is also something at a police station, too. That sounds fun. (I really mean that)
Soon after all of this, I can apply for a job somewhere. It turns out that there are a lot of Mormon people in high places in Medicine.
My kids are going through a defiant phase. Today, I was with friends, and all 4 of them were just really negative, trash talking each other, one upping each other. I remember reading that when boys turn around 10 they have a large testosterone surge. One is almost 10, the others are 8 and 9. Is that true? I need to do some research.
Perhaps I am grumpy at home to them and they then are grumpy to each other. I hate the fighting and they fight all the time. Every moment of interaction is one boy trying to out-do the other. Every moment is one boy trying to scare or "get" the other. It is exhausting. I was an only child. I fought with my mom. Maybe I need to figure out how to be more of an ally to my individual boys.
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Kati,
This sounds OH, so normal to me. Boys are always verbally (and sometimes physically) pushing at other. Its how they test each other's manhood. I have fought against and hated it, too, but as I've been able to talk to my older sons (age 17 & 19) who've now pretty much grown out of that phase, and express to them how much I dislike it when their younger brothers do it, they've helped me see that (for guys) its not that big of a deal... its part of growing into a man. Its the ways relate to each other.
Yeah - I'm lacking the testosterone, but my hubby is in agreement with my sons. I think the thing to watch out for is ganging up on one, when it is directed at younger children, etc. I think some good talks with your sons, and asking them how they feel when "so and so says such and such" will clue you in to whether or not they're dealing well with it, or not.
It seems that boys ALWAYS go too far. I guess that's how they learn where the limits are. I suppose its better to learn now, rather than later. Anyway - hope that helps a little. Of course, having those talks about when and who this behavior is appropriate with, AND MORE IMPORTANTLY... who and when this behavior is NOT important, is really important.
I remember when my boys were 4 & 5, and I had decided not to have toy weapons in the house. They glued their blocks into ray guns. Its a guy thing.
Normal in our house of boys. The closer in age the more they fight. And, it's constant "potty" mouth. AH! Enjoy... they are bonding!?
I am loving her site too. She has the greatest ideas on it! So much better than sitting at home...lol!
I am sure things will be turning around for you soon!
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